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The perfect wedding toast formula:

Part 1: I love you both so much.
Part 2: A lovely anecdote about the couple’s relationship and how awesome they are. (Try to stay away from something just about about the bride or groom, but about them as a couple. Talking about primarily the bride or groom within the context of their relationship and their love can be lovely, too, if that’s your relationship to the couple.) This should be the bulk of your speech.
Part 3: I hope you are always as happy, joyous, and in love as that moment. OR This proves how madly in love you two are. May you continue to be an inspiration to us all. Etc.
Part 4. (Actually make the toast.) Everyone drinks!
Keep it short and sweet, and it will be a home-run every time.

Congratulations for finding your way here. This means that you have already identified that something is/was wrong with the way your mother treated you, and have loved yourself enough to search for answers. This is HUGE. It means that you have already taken a big step on the journey of healing from being a daughter of a narcissistic mother.

You may have come here via search terms which did not involve any of the words like 'daughters of narcissistic mothers' or 'narcissistic personality disorder' or 'npd'.

In that case, it means that you don't yet know exactly why your mother is the way she is, you just know that your mother-daughter relationship is very flawed.

This website might have the answer as to why.

“And I want to play hide-and-seek and give you my clothes and tell you I like your shoes and sit on the steps while you take a bath and massage your neck and kiss your feet and hold your hand and go for a meal and not mind when you eat my food and meet you at Rudy's and talk about the day and type up your letters and carry your boxes and laugh at your paranoia and give you tapes you don't listen to and watch great films and watch terrible films and complain about the radio and take pictures of you when you're sleeping and get up to fetch you coffee and bagels and Danish and go to Florent and drink coffee at midnight and have you steal my cigarettes and never be able to find a match and tell you about the tv programme I saw the night before and take you to the eye hospital and not laugh at your jokes and want you in the morning but let you sleep for a while and kiss your back and stroke your skin and tell you how much I love your hair your eyes your lips your neck your breasts your arse your

and want what you want and think I'm losing myself but know I'm safe with you and tell you the worst of me and try to give you the best of me because you don't deserve any less and answer your questions when I'd rather not and tell you the truth when I really don't want to and try to be honest because I know you prefer it and think it's all over but hang on in for just ten more minutes before you throw me out of your life and forget who I am and try to get closer to you because it's beautiful learning to know you and well worth the effort and speak German to you badly and Hebrew to you worseand make love with you at three in the morning and somehow somehow somehow communicate some of the overwhelming undying overpowering unconditional all-encompassing heart-enriching mind-expanding on-going never-ending love I have for you.”